Therapy for Burnout, People-Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Codependency

Helping caring, driven adults balance their needs with life’s demands.

Portrait of a woman, Dr. Erin McKnew, PsyD, with long blonde hair, smiling, wearing a dark green sweater, standing against a plain light-colored background.

I’m a Clinical Psychologist providing in person therapy in Danville, CA, and virtual therapy throughout California and Hawaii

You’re the one everyone counts on, the glue that holds your world together.

But lately, you’ve been stretched too thin, running on fumes, and maybe even quietly resentful. Beneath that exterior of competence, you might feel exhausted, anxious, depressed, disconnected, or constantly second-guessing yourself. You get frustrated for not doing more or doing better. Something has to change. You might tell yourself the solution is to work harder, give more, or please others, but that same pattern keeps you overstretched and depleted

If this resonates, you may be caught in a pattern of burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or high-functioning codependency, ways of coping that once were adaptive and necessary, but now come with rising costs. Real relief comes from slowing down enough to reconnect with your own needs, values, and boundaries, and learning how to balance them with the demands of the world around you.

I specialize in therapy for burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and codependency in California and Hawaii. I offer individual therapy for adults who are ready for sustainable change. Together, we’ll untangle the old patterns that keep you overextending yourself in work, relationships, and life, and build practical skills to move forward with clarity and self-compassion.

I offer in-person therapy in Danville, CA, and online therapy across California and Hawaii.

I often hear, “I want to work on me, but I don’t have time for therapy.” Ironically, therapy is what helps you reclaim time and energy, one of the most meaningful investments you can make in yourself.

If you’re ready to stop running on empty, take the first step today. Schedule a free, no obligation 20-minute consultation and find out if I’m the right fit for you.

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What Sets My Approach Apart

Relatable and Practical

I skip the jargon and share my impressions and evidence-based strategies in plain, down-to-earth language.

A Dash of Humor

Therapy doesn’t need to feel like a lecture. We’ll keep things light enough to stay engaging, while still doing the deep work.

Licensed in California and Hawaii

Offering in-person therapy in Danville, California and online therapy for clients across California and Hawaii.

Areas of Specialization

“You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”


—Dr. Thema Bryant

You’ve taken care of everyone else. Now take care of you.

Schedule your free 20-minute consultation and start reconnecting with yourself.

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If you are experiencing a life threatening emergency, call 911 or go to the nearest ER

If you are not in danger, but need immediate support, call 988, a mental health crisis hotline